Every innocent victim of sexual assault should be treated with dignity and respect. We all share a common bond, remember you are not alone and it does not diminish who you are. This is a safe place... >>

DNA has opened up a new world for the criminal investigator. However, along with that new world comes the added responsibility of properly collecting and preserving the DNA evidence and entering it... >>

Trauma such as rape can wreak havoc on your body and mind. There are constructive ways to combat stress and it starts with identifying and recognizing your symptoms. >>

The decision to report a rape to police is an individual one. Authorities are now better trained than they were in 1993 when the crime was committed in Donna's case. Donna reporting the rape... >>

A two-hour show on Donna's story and this initiative aired Sunday, April 29th from 7 to 9 EST. It is the first time that Donna has revealed her identity since the crime in 1993. It was a careful... >>

My husband empathized with Ms. Palumba's husband. His only brother molested our two younger children. He really had to struggle with his urge to hurt him. Our therapist and I kept telling him... >>

I still hold onto the past. I keep it to myself. The people in my life have never really known what has happened to me. I never wanted to tell them, in fear of shame and adverse reactions. I know... >>

Has anyone dealt with the probation system yet... making sure that the restrictions the rapist or incestuous molester gets enough restrictions? Has the system failed? What would you have done... >>

My little girl just turned 9 a few weeks before Christmas...a week after our annual old fashioned Family Thanksgiving. Her aunts and uncles, grandmothers and cousins were there. Christmas 2005... >>

My 12 year old daughter was molested by her dad. She was just a little girl, barely beginning to develop a body. Her 17 year old sister was right beside her in the bed,very "developed"... >>

I know from my own experience with the police and considering a police offcer was the rapist that the city involved was willing to go to any extent to keep the matter quiet and make themselves look... >>

I also saw donna's story on T.V. today and think she is a brave person. I was raped by a law enforcement officer and his department knows he raped not only me but another woman and refuse to do... >>

Hi my name is Julz, and in the past week I have learned after watching a seagment of Oprah, regarding Rape/sexual assult/abuse by spouses. I was taken back because that is exactly what my husband... >>

When I was 13 I was raped by my adopted father and I went to my sister and told her and she told DHS. My foster parents told me that if I told DHS that it was true that I would be sent away and be... >>

Ok so this will sound pathetic. I'm a fan of collage so when cutting up Tale a Break I came across Donna's story and this website. For a while now I have needed help on if I was actually raped. I'm... >>

I posted a comment about my daughter who was molested and 4th degree raped by her dad and her "Fairy Tale Ending" that she had. Interestingly, he was arrested on Friday for violating the... >>

I am a trainee solicitor in Glasgow, Scotland. I watched the film last night. I was so taken with the injustice Jane went through that I wanted to read more. I would like to read the book. Where... >>

My daughter was sexually molested and 4th degree raped when she was 12 years old by her Dad at his house on Christmas Eve. She did not reveal what had happened until 3 years later. Initially she... >>

I am a three year survivor. Every April 10th is a bitter sweet day. It marks the day of a tragic event that changed my life forever BUT it also marks the day of survival. Sometimes I wonder if... >>

I am an emergency physician who is part of a coalition that is attempting to obtain passage of a law creating a sexual assault examiner program in Connecticut. I would like to start a discussion of... >>

When I read that another woman was able to win a conviction, I am simultaneously elated, resentful, hopeful and angry. This is because I was never able to get justice. I know that I am being... >>

being raped twice;once as a child from my garden in france and once coming out from SURGERY in a hospital in n.y and.....but with my faith and searching for help;i do not know if the fears will... >>

I was raped 24 years ago on October 29th at 10:15pm. This week marks my 24th year of choosing to live. I spent 11 years of my life as a Victims Advocate. The best and most important thing I have... >>

My parents got divorced when i was 11. Around that time my mother started dating one of her former highschool sweethearts. She had to go out of town for a family funeral. My father couldnt take us... >>

I sat in the court room and told everyone what happened infront of the person who raped me. I showed no emotion to him and answered all the questions that were asked of me. I am the one who... >>

My goal is to find the peace I used to know
But not necessarily the person I used to be

My goal is to not cry after everyone has gone to bed
When the memories come flooding back

My goal is... >>

They finally caught the man who raped me...thank God! I found out he raped at least 5 others before me. My former company now knows I told the truth (see my response to "Still Hurt"). I... >>

Two days ago I had a pre-trial. My lawyer didn't have me stay for all of it...just my part...which was first. In the pre-trial, with my assaultant sitting right there, they had me state my... >>

This week is a special week for me. You see, this is the week my rapist gets a formal charge against him from his commanding officer (he's in a branch of the military). He and his lawyer were... >>

As time passes by talking about my rape is becoming easier. I can now actually say the word outloud even though I do stumble on it occasionally. But usually I just refer to it as "the... >>

I was in counseling for the first time about a year ago. My sessions were once a month and I dropped out after about six months. I read NanciS article "SEEK HELP, no matter how long it's... >>

I am a decorated 16 year police officer who was recently placed on involuntary disability status after I reported being raped in my home by a supervisor 6 years ago. My very department covered up... >>

I was a victim of RAPE - today I am SURVIVING!

I was sitting in the waiting room at the local hospital and like all the other patience staring at the TV when panic set in and I didn't know why.... >>

It seems to me that the mistreatment of victims by law enforcement after reporting a rape, is also a form of sexual harassment and harassment. This may also be thought of further victimization.... >>

What are these sickos wishing for? To destroy someones life, by making their next drink, a date with a rape drug? >>

Last Friday I was raped and I don't know what to do. I drank far too much and put myself in a bad situation, but I tried so hard to stop it.
It was so strange, it was like I went from buzzed to... >>

I am 16 years old and was sexually assaulted by my former band director. I was a cheerleader and was in the colourguard....thats how I met him. Around December of 2005, he started becoming rather... >>

Last year I moved to California for a job. While there I was raped and now have a 3 month old daughter who may or may not be a result of the rape. I was informed at her birth that due to other... >>

Sometimes I feel like I just can't get over the feelings of anger at what my daughter's father did to her. On top of that all his family sides with him and so my daughters feel like they have lost... >>

I am so glad to have this website to read each day and to know that I am not alone. There was never one second when I felt shame for what he did. He is the person who chose to drug another human... >>

The following is a definition of Grand larceny found on the internet. Ring a bell?

Grand larceny is the crime of theft of another's property or money over a statutorily defined value, as... >>

I like your slogan, but I like this one too.

Shortening the Time from Crime to Conviction.
or...
Is his next victim REAL to you?
Is he raping her as you tell your story?
Nobody is going to... >>

I would like to hear from others whose accusers have passed polygraph testing. I am convinced my daughter is telling the truth, yet her father passed a polygraph. Does anyone have any info on... >>

Results of polygraph >>

After extensive research on rape, I have come to discover that around 70% of victims know the rapist, and that the conviction rate is around 6% of those prosecuted. Men are free to rape in the... >>

I was molested when I was 11 and raped when I was 17. The molestation case went to trial but the judge dismissed the charges saying "he didn't believe thing's like this happen to... >>

I am afraid to go to the police because the person who date raped me is the son of a prominent member of my community. Are my fears that this will become a big media deal rational? Do they have... >>

I want to know why I wasn't informed during my SAVE exam that there was such a thing as PEP (a series of medicines offered to health care workers after possible exposure to HIV. It must be taken... >>

newly raped... i think >>

I was a victim of date rape when I was 15. I knew the boy very well, we were friends and I trusted him. I completely froze when it began, and have always felt "WHY". Why did I not fight,... >>

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I have been in counseling before, but to me it was pointless. I refused to talk about the major traumas in my life and never told the counselors about my rapes. You have to let your counselor... >>

After seeing the story on Dateline I realized I wasn't alone anymore. I was very sad for Ms. Palomba. It gave me the courage to try once again to bring forth what I know and have seen. I am very... >>

Anyone in Dallas who has an old rape case that was unsolved - must be an unknown rapist and DNA was collected in a rape kit (probably at Parkland Hospital). You can request that your case be... >>

In Dallas there is a wonderful cold case rape program (SEACAP) solving old cases by DNA. My 20 year old case was solved last year (and about 6 others so far).

We have a problem in that the... >>

In Dallas, TX, there is a wonderful cold case rape program. I am one of about 6 victims whose old cases have recently been solved by DNA! However, we have the statue of limitations issue (changed... >>

Let me set the story for you. My boyfriend and I are out to dinner at a Japanese resturant where they cook at your table. The couple they sit beside us are a lovely looking girl and... >>

I was a victim when I was 9 years old. I will be a 60 years old in June. When this happens to you it's something that never goes away. But by talking to someone about it I have healed up to a... >>

I will not begin to live until I have taking care of my legal paper work have been done. I will be doing this in August this year. I was so happy to see your story on t.v. This is a blessing for me... >>

I have a very large concern about young people today with so many second marriages and parents work alternating work shifts to economically make it. Children are either not supervised and look for... >>

I originally posted this as a reply to another topic but feel that others need to be aware of what goes on behind walls where badges are worn by "protectors". surely I am not the only... >>

I was molested at age 11 and then victimized by the police and court system with that. At age 17 U was raped by a neighbor but didn't report it for 2 years because of what happened when I was... >>

God bless you for your courage and determination and for the help and hope you are giving others. >>

My first husband was an alcholic and went to the bars frequently. One time, as he was sleeping off his hangover, I was cleaning up, picked up one of his shirts, and some pills fell out on the... >>

I am a police officer in Pennsylvania. Although I work for a small department I have received specialized and advanced training in sexual assault and child abuse investigations, which are my... >>

Hi my name is Kim and I am 30 years old.My daughter is 7 and she is the result of my rape.Up until I was 3 months along I was going to give her up for adoption..But it hurt to think of giving her... >>

John, I want to stand up and applaud you for how you continue to stand beside and openly express love for your wife. You set a good example for all men in this nation. Also, the way that you dealt... >>

I was quiet for so many years because he told me that he would kill my family starting with my mother and let me watch.I was twelve(12) when he started and finally stopped when I was... >>

After my rape, as stated before, I never went to a doctor. Six months after the rape it was time for my one year check up. My doctor asked if I had any new sexual partners. I wasn't going to lie... >>

As a survivor, what has been helpful to you? I am a pastoral counselor and would like input as to what is helpful to someone who has been attacked in this way. It has been said bad help is worse... >>

Does anyone know of attorneys in Massachusetts who will assist victims in bringing actions against police departments when they are re-victimized by the police? I have yet to find any, despite... >>

Hey Donna do you have any advice for triggers? Iwas at the dentist this AM and they flashed the light in my face and it brought me back to my rape. I am really struggling with this your a survior... >>

I need healing and have not told my family of my rape by two high school boys that I knew. Now I am looking for SW who was raped by the same two high school boys that raped me in the summer of... >>

When the man who sexually assaulted my daughter was arrested and later indicted (he was a teacher), our local t.v. station and newspaper reported way too much information about my child. They spent... >>

i was a victim of a very violent crime. raped held hostage and died and came back to life , the prosacutors office is supposed to help you get restatution well mine didnt , me not knowing about the... >>

Hi First I want to thank Donna for her bravery... Not being believed is horrific and I went though the same thing but in a different way. This is a powerful website.

I broke the silence... >>

Having seen your story on T.V. I can only wonder what ever happened to the crooked cops that made the your horrible experience even worse. There was nothing mentioned of it in the show except that... >>

When my 9 year old dtr disclosed to me that her, police officer dad had been molesting her, touching her and having naps with her every day when I was at work, his department, the prosecutors... >>

Forgiveness saved me. I was raped at gunpoint in 2003, just a couple of months into my marriage. I reported to the police although the rapist said that he would come back and kill me. The police... >>

The DA's office or the State's Attorney's Office have four primary functions: hold criminals responsible for their criminal conduct; seek the truth; provide support and services to victims of... >>

I would like to know how to help her more. She was rapped and kidnapped repeatedly by a cousin and his "friend". Sometimes while she's sleeping she regresses to those ages ect.She's... >>

when i was attacked brutally in 1987 and saved my own life being in the hands of a serial rapist and killer , i went thru a hard time healing having surgerys after surgerys then having such fear of... >>

I am so confused. I am thankful for Capt Oleary in Donna's case..WOW a GOOD COP!!

My case is not as such, I was actually WORKING for a police department when I was raped,and they saw me as a... >>

Tips from victims who found ways to heal and move on from being raped. >>

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Apparently we are not allowed as private citizens to pay for our own DNA rape kits to be investigated and the State doesn't want to pay the $500 or so to do them either. Why are we not making sure... >>

Thanks to Donna for telling her story, to the chief for doing his job - even though it wasn't a popular idea in his department at the time, and to Dateline for telling a story many needed to hear.... >>

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I was in Mexico about 6 weeks ago with my son for his gradation present. On the Third night that we were there I was drugged in the hotel bar. I have very few memorys of this night.One of a... >>

I survived a rape with use of a firearm over 20 years ago. My son who was only 21 months old at the time was in my arms during the entire ordeal. I have an 18 year old daughter now and because I... >>

I wanted to say as a victim of spousal rape (I was raped repeatedly when I told him I was leaving him)...I reported it to family and therapists. PLEASE,understand this is rape also. For 3 1/2... >>

I was raped in October 1952. I was just 15. It was in England. As a result of that rape I became pregnant. When I discovered that I was pregnant I had what is known now as Fugue and ran away from... >>

It's been 29 years and I still have not "recovered". I was 16 when I was raped by the school's drug dealer. I was too afraid to fight because I didn't know what he would do since he was... >>

I was assaulted almost a year ago by a "massage therapist" in a well known spa. I was the last "client" of the night. I reported it and went to the hospital. I followed every... >>

how the press reports sexual assault cases, and how the victim is treated by the press. How much information should be reported about a victim. >>

I was a victim for so many years and never said anything because he was a teacher and my brother-in-law.The thing was everyone would say in family group "What has happen to Gabby" she has... >>

I don't know why I can't wipe it off my mind. I tell myself to "get over it" but it's there all the time. I look so happy on the outside and am known to be a jokester and someone fun to... >>

I was 15 y/o when it happended. He lived across the alley. His sister used to babysit me when i was little. He did things then too. I told noone. I don't know why til this day. As i got older i... >>

I was victinized as a child and am now 66 years old. It too me many years before I could feel free of the attack. I wrote a book entitled: You Can Tell: Memoirs of a Perfect World and How they... >>

I am 63 years old. I was molested by two different male neighbors from age 4-16. Since this took place during post WW2 years there was no one to whom I could turn. I always have believed it was... >>

I was also a rape victim. It happened in the middle of the night while my two children were asleep in my own home. If you want to here my story, let me know. I would also like to help other victims. >>

Absolutely riveting was the story tonight on "Dateline" I am so thankful for Neil O'Leary and for Donna's courage to speak publicly. How sad, and awful I felt for her and her husband.... >>

I was 15 years old when a man came up to me and took me and was about to change my life for ever. He took me in his truck and put a knife to my neck and told me i will do what ever he told me or he... >>

I have been trying to send this to the Chief..Dear Chief O'Leary,
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY...It is my belief that if more of our cities had police officers of your caliber..the world would be... >>

It is my hope that someone will hear this story and want to see justice for my son.Three years ago my 19 year old son was beaten and raped while incarcerated. Where it happened does not make him... >>

I went to marsh and saw my rapist. The torture and agony never ends. >>

my daugtor was molosted by my ex husband hes now serving 15 months, he had my daughtor so messed up she didnt think i loved her, iv got her into coulnsling, but it takes a toll on her i found out a... >>

I belong to a group of women who were rape and brutalized in the military. We have lived with the shame of this for years and represent many eras. Making people aware of the problem and effects... >>

I was raped at 16 by my manager at work. His name was Steve, he was in his late 20's early 30's. As my friends and I closed up the movie theater for the evening, my manager asked me to come see... >>

My daughter was raped by her father in 2004 when she was 15. I had been divorced from him for over a decade and had very little communication with him as he had been abusive toward me many times... >>

I can't deal with my daughter's rape. >>

Maybe I'm a self destructive person. Maybe I'm not. Maybe he didn't really rape me. Maybe he didn't mean to do it. Maybe I didn't speak up loud enough for him to hear me. My head is just... >>

On January 18, 1983 I was raped and assaulted by two males who broke into my house. They were never found because one of them hit me so hard, I sustained a three inch crack on my skull. It... >>

Please, please, erase that word from your minds! We are survivors of a violent and very personal attack. I survived rape - incestuous rape - that started as an attempt when I was 6, successful when... >>

I was a victim over 20 years ago and never spoke up for fear of the process. I am only in my forties now and still wish I had come forward. Because I did know who the assailant was (he was the... >>

I was so happy to see Donna's story on The Today Show this morning. My story is similar in that I was treated so badly by the police that even now, 35 years later, that is what hurts the most, not... >>